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March 17, 2024

Patrick Coman sermon on anger

Passage: Ephesians 4:26-27, Matthew 6:14-15
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Patrick discusses the anger cycle where unresolved anger can eventually lead to a root of bitterness and residual anger

Anger: Patrick Coman started his sermon about Anger with Ephesians 4:26-27
Eph 4:26-27 God gets angry and tells us to “Be angry but do not sin”

It is a God given emotion.

What do we get angry about? Patrick mentioned three basic challenges (causes)
Beliefs (Ideals, standards, morals, expectations)
Goals (things to work towards, task deadline, something you want to achieve)
Values (self-worth, as others see us, as God sees us)

Anger is an automatic chemical response to a trigger. Flight, fight or freeze response (and Patrick mentions a fourth in his book “fawn”). All sorts of things make responses to triggers different for each person. Bad fruit is often accompanied by bad language and violence and others become defiled by our bad behaviour. (See Hebrews 12:15)

Patrick asked, “What should we get angry about?”
The anger cycle: incident, hurts to our belief system, can become anger. If unresolved leads to resentment, bitterness, root of bitterness (criticism, sarcasm, judgmental attitude, grudge holding, yelling and revenge). If this persists then it leads to residual anger (which make you more sensitive to triggers). Residual anger grows every time there is more unforgiveness and darkness continues to grow until it fills the whole person. Matt 6:14-15 is a very heavy Scripture. We need to ask truthfully “Who do we need to forgive”. We cannot walk with God and hold onto others. We must give forgiveness to others. Our actions need to match our confession.
Way forward: Confession, forgiveness and repentance

Resolution: You have really forgiven when you no longer criticise the offender, when you no longer remember with pain and can pray compassionately for the blessing of the offender. All conflict can be an opportunity to mature. All things can be turned together for good. Unforgiveness chains us to the past, poisons the presence and keeps us from what God has for us in the future. Forgiveness is a process. Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people.